Baby Not Following Where You Look
Medically reviewed by Dr. Emily Torres, PhD, CCC-SLP · Pediatric Speech-Language Pathologist
Content reviewed against published AAP, CDC, Zero to Three guidelines
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Behavioral development varies greatly from child to child. If you have noticed baby not following where you look, here is what you need to know.
The short answer
Gaze following, where a baby looks in the direction you are looking, typically develops between 6 and 12 months. It is a foundational joint attention skill that helps babies learn from others. If your baby does not follow your gaze or look where you point by 12 months, mention this to your pediatrician.
Key takeaways
- Gaze following, where a baby looks in the direction you are looking, typically develops between 6 and 12 months. It is a foundational joint attention skill that helps babies learn from others. If your baby does not follow your gaze or look where you point by 12 months, mention this to your pediatrician.
- Usually normal when: Your baby is under 9 months and gaze following is still developing
- Call your doctor if: Your baby shows no joint attention behaviors of any kind including gaze following, pointing, and showing by 15 months
- Varies by age — see the age-by-age breakdown below
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What Parents Should Know
According to AAP, CDC, Zero to Three guidelines, gaze following, where a baby looks in the direction you are looking, typically develops between 6 and 12 months. It is a foundational joint attention skill that helps babies learn from others. If your baby does not follow your gaze or look where you point by 12 months, mention this to your pediatrician. At 0-5 months, babies are not yet expected to follow your gaze direction. They focus primarily on faces directly in front of them and objects within their visual field. It is generally considered normal when your baby is under 9 months and gaze following is still developing. However, you should contact your pediatrician promptly if your baby shows no joint attention behaviors of any kind including gaze following, pointing, and showing by 15 months.
Normal vs. Concerning
By Age
What to expect by age
0-5 months
Babies are not yet expected to follow your gaze direction. They focus primarily on faces directly in front of them and objects within their visual field.
6-9 months
Gaze following begins to emerge. Babies may turn to look at something after you look at it, especially if you use exaggerated head turns. This skill develops gradually.
9-12 months
Most babies reliably follow your gaze and look where you point. They use this skill to learn about their environment and share attention with you. This is a key joint attention milestone.
12-18 months
Gaze following is well-established. Babies use it along with pointing and showing to create shared experiences. If your child does not follow gaze or pointing by 12 months, a developmental assessment may be recommended.
18-24 months
Children follow gaze automatically and use it as part of social interaction. Persistent failure to follow gaze or pointing may be associated with social communication differences and should be evaluated.
What to Tell Your Pediatrician
- Describe when you first noticed baby not following where you look and how it has changed over time.
- Note your baby's current age and which age-specific patterns you are seeing.
- Mention if your baby is over 12 months and does not look where you point or look.
- Mention if your baby does not follow gaze and also does not point or show objects.
- Let your doctor know if you have noticed any related concerns, such as changes in feeding, sleep, or movement patterns.
- Bring a list of any questions or observations you want to discuss at the appointment.
What Should You Do?
When to take action
- Your baby is under 9 months and gaze following is still developing
- Your baby follows your gaze sometimes but not consistently
- Your baby follows pointing but not subtle gaze shifts
- Your baby follows gaze in quiet settings but not in busy environments
- Your baby is over 12 months and does not look where you point or look
- Your baby does not follow gaze and also does not point or show objects
- Your baby seems uninterested in what you are looking at or attending to
- Your baby shows no joint attention behaviors of any kind including gaze following, pointing, and showing by 15 months
- Your baby had these skills and has lost them
What You Can Do at Home
- Keep track of when you notice baby not following where you look — noting the time of day, duration, and any triggers can help your pediatrician.
- Remember that your baby is under 9 months and gaze following is still developing — this is generally within the range of normal.
- At 0-5 months, focus on observation rather than intervention unless your pediatrician advises otherwise.
- Respond consistently and calmly to your baby's behavior. Maintain predictable daily routines.
- While monitoring at home, seek immediate care if your baby shows no joint attention behaviors of any kind including gaze following, pointing, and showing by 15 months.
Related Conditions
Baby Not Sharing Attention (No Joint Attention)
Joint attention - the ability to share focus on something with another person - is one of the most important social-communication skills that develops between 9 and 14 months. It includes following someone's point or gaze, pointing to show you something interesting, and looking back and forth between you and an object. This skill is the foundation for language learning and social development.
My Baby Isn't Pointing
Pointing typically develops between 12 and 14 months and is considered one of the most important social communication milestones. It shows your baby wants to share their world with you. If your baby isn't pointing by 18 months, a developmental evaluation is recommended - but there are lots of other ways babies start communicating that are worth noticing too.
Baby Not Showing Things to Parents
Showing objects to share interest, such as holding up a toy for you to see, typically develops between 10 and 14 months. This is a key joint attention skill that demonstrates your baby wants to share experiences with you. If your child is not showing objects to share by 15 months, mention it to your pediatrician, as it is an important social communication milestone.
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Frequently asked questions
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References
- [1]American Academy of Pediatrics. Social Development: 8 to 12 Months. AAP
- [2]Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Important Milestones: Your Baby By Nine Months. CDC
- [3]Zero to Three. Joint Attention and Social Development. Zero to Three
Doctor Visit Checklist
Bring this checklist to your next pediatrician visit to discuss Baby Not Following Where You Look.
Things to mention
- Describe when you first noticed baby not following where you look and how it has changed over time.
- Note your baby's current age and which age-specific patterns you are seeing.
- Mention if your baby is over 12 months and does not look where you point or look.
- Mention if your baby does not follow gaze and also does not point or show objects.
- Let your doctor know if you have noticed any related concerns, such as changes in feeding, sleep, or movement patterns.
- Bring a list of any questions or observations you want to discuss at the appointment.
Observations to share
- Your baby is over 12 months and does not look where you point or look
- Your baby does not follow gaze and also does not point or show objects
- Your baby seems uninterested in what you are looking at or attending to
Urgent signs to report immediately
- Your baby shows no joint attention behaviors of any kind including gaze following, pointing, and showing by 15 months
- Your baby had these skills and has lost them
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Bottom line
Most cases of baby not following where you look are normal. Talk to your pediatrician if your baby shows no joint attention behaviors of any kind including gaze following, pointing, and showing by 15 months.
Trust your instincts. If something feels wrong, reach out to your pediatrician. Worrying about your baby means you care — that is a good thing.
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